How to find true love…(a guide for teens)

by Lynn on January 25, 2010

Are you suddenly struck with the urge to comb your hair? Are you incapable of speech when you’re near a particular person?  Do not panic. You might have a crush. If you’re thinking of dating that person, read on. If not, go ahead and have a chocolate milkshake.

How to find true love:
“If you go to the dance with me, I promise to stop putting my hand in my shirt.”

Don’t believe that someone will change.
Change is difficult, painful, exhausting, infuriating, and really, really hard to do. Accept folks for who they are. The only person you can change is you.

“This soup is cold! Take it back, you sniveling rodent.”

Choose someone who is nice to everyone. Try not to date someone who treats people poorly. Someday you’ll be the target of that ire. Find someone who is genuinely sweet, because kindness is a trait that’s impossible to learn. You deserve someone nice.

“Look at me! I’m magnificent!”

Don’t fall for someone just because they’re good-looking. Bad behavior will transform the most beautiful face into that of a monster. Lies and cruelty will scar your regard for anyone, whereas kindness and integrity makes a regular person look drop dead gorgeous.

“I know it’s hard to believe, but I’m going to make you deliriously happy.”

Character counts. Want to spare yourself a lot of heartache? Find someone who is honorable, responsible, moral, and decent. Those qualities aren’t boring. They are crucial.

“Nay, you mustn’t go hunting with the Duke. You must stay at home and watch me frown.”

Does your date respect you? Do they listen to what you say? Will they honor your wishes if you don’t want to do something? If the answer is “no” to any one of these questions, say goodbye.

“I think we should see other people.”

It’s okay to break up. Dating is a time to figure out who you are and what type of people you enjoy. Dating is supposed to be fun. Laughter, silliness, kissing, hugging, sharing, acceptance, and warmth are all part of being with someone who values you. But if you feel sad, trapped, scared, guilty, or anxious, it’s time to step away from the relationship.
“I don’t like hasty pudding.”

Honesty is the best policy. Sometimes the hardest thing to do is to tell someone that you’re unhappy or uncomfortable or, heaven forbid, that you’re human. But the relief that you’ll feel after sharing your feelings is worth the risk. Never, under any circumstances, lie to someone.

“I like Barry Manilow. There, I said it.”

Be yourself. This bears repeating, because you will save yourself so much heartache and anxiety if you have the courage to be YOU. You are very lovable, just the way you are.

“I’ll never find another jerk like him again.”
Don’t listen to love songs. Despite what you may hear in love songs, you don’t have one chance at true love. You will have many loves. Each relationship is different, but wonderful. Keep yourself open to possibilities.
“Reading and sewing complete me.”

For girls: You are responsible for your own happiness. Don’t expect your boyfriend, your fiance or your husband to make you happy. That’s your job!


For anyone who’s interested… My kids are allowed to start dating when they’re 30.





Tagged as: love, teens

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Tammy April 11, 2010 at 11:52 am

I loved this! I remember when I asked my dad at what age could I start dating. I am an only child and my parents and I were at the dinner table. From the corner of my eye,I can see my mom trying not to laugh out loud and my Dad just about choked on his food (poor guy). Oh I should probably mention that I was 11 at the time of this question. His answer was the same as yours.. 35!! It was pretty funny.
.-= Tammy´s last blog ..Please Shoot Me NOW =-.

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